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Racism and Sexual Harm: Seeds of White Supremacy and Anti-Asian Violence
In October 2015, I was only one month a blushing bride. I was still aglow. Dating, romantic partnership, and real love had eluded me most...
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Integration as Holiness
Abby Wong-Heffter reflects on the birth of her son and proposes that the work of integrating our minds, bodies, and spirits is intimately connected to the movement of holiness.
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Six Signs of Codependency
Abby Wong-Heffter writes that sacrificial love can devolve into a destructive form of codependency when we don’t allow space for our own needs and desires.
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Half Chinese Wonder Woman
In 1982 I was a 4-year-old obsessed with the Lynda Carter version of Wonder Woman. I would twirl in circles to transform into her likeness,...
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Mothering
Growing a loving, secure attachment between parents and their children is a weighty, complex calling in any circumstances. When families include biological children alongside stepchildren...
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My Family and Alton Sterling
Last week, Susan Kim wrote about the need to confront the hate that is bred by fear, and the common resistance to naming hate—particularly in...
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Post Traumatic Single Disorder
As we pursue the deep work of cultivating restoration in our own stories and the stories of others, one thing becomes clear: trauma takes many...
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The Scarcity or Abundance of Singleness
This post continues a series about scarcity and abundance by Abby Wong-Heffter, a member of The Allender Center Teaching Staff. In the first part, Abby...
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