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Blessing Pornography: From Shame Toward Delight
Much of our work at The Allender Center is about inviting people to move toward restoration not by shaming our brokenness, but by magnifying our...
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Knowing in Full
Every individual is full of seemingly infinite depth and complexity, particularly to those who are closest to them and have experienced firsthand both their beauty...
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My Family and Alton Sterling
Last week, Susan Kim wrote about the need to confront the hate that is bred by fear, and the common resistance to naming hate—particularly in...
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Confronting Hate
All summer long we have been reeling, as both individuals and communities, with the violence of recent months, grappling with the devastating realities of division and...
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Welcoming Age
Many of us are familiar with the tendency to treat our bodies with cruelty and disdain. Here, Becky Allender reflects on the joy she finds...
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The Work Is to Believe
Anyone who pursues the difficult work of telling their story for the sake of healing is familiar with the question: is it worth it? Is...
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Deciding to Stay
Sometimes the decision to take a leap of faith looks nothing like we might imagine and is accompanied by tears, questions, and small, tentative steps....
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Why I Am Insecure—and Want My Wife to Pay for It
Most of us learned to develop defensive structures and strategies to protect ourselves from painful situations and relationships in our past. But what happens when...
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