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Deciding to Stay
Sometimes the decision to take a leap of faith looks nothing like we might imagine and is accompanied by tears, questions, and small, tentative steps....
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Why I Am Insecure—and Want My Wife to Pay for It
Most of us learned to develop defensive structures and strategies to protect ourselves from painful situations and relationships in our past. But what happens when...
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The Woman Who Held My Face
As we seek to care for and support others, many of us find it difficult to allow ourselves to receive deep care from close, trusted...
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The Hidden Hope in Lament
This month on The Allender Center Podcast, we’re featuring a conversation between Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Keith Anderson, President of The Seattle School, about...
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Post Traumatic Single Disorder
As we pursue the deep work of cultivating restoration in our own stories and the stories of others, one thing becomes clear: trauma takes many...
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Held Together by Love
Our earliest attachment experiences—for better and for worse—have a deep and profound impact on the moments in our current, day-to-day lives. Here, Becky Allender writes...
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In the Quiet
In moments of quiet remembrance, as joy and sorrow mingle, we begin to realize that so much of our busyness is rooted in a fear...
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Tilling Forgiveness Through Love
As we pursue deep and lasting healing through engagement with our stories of harm, we often find that the level of kindness we can offer...
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