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The Wrong Jeans
Our styles of relating are formed and informed by the messages we internalize through our stories of harm and abuse. Here, Laura Wade Shirley, Participant...
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The Work of My Life: A Story Workshop Experience
The Allender Center’s core belief is that we are best known—and our stories best seen—in the company of others. One of our signature expressions of...
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Miraculous Love
In the midst of upheaval and opposition, it can feel like a miracle to survive, let alone accomplish any of the goals before us. Here,...
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Sexual Addiction, Misogyny, and Donald Trump
Recently, Becky Allender wrote about how current events have inspired her to reach out to her younger self and reclaim a sense of bold pride...
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Resurrecting Boyhood
Last week, Rachael Clinton reflected on the ambivalence we often feel when daring to engage our stories of trauma and abuse. Here, Matt Morrissey, Admissions...
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Waking Desire
Many of us know the ambivalence of naming desire. It requires us to face the agony of our harm and, if we allow it, opens...
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I’d Rather Wear Pink
As we dive into our past experiences and engage our story with authenticity and courage, we begin to see surprising parallels and reminders of the...
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The Trap of Cynicism
At the heart of the Allender Theory is the belief that our desires are beautiful and God-given, but that traumatic experiences and harmful messages train...
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