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Opening My Eyes
All transformation requires disruption. And it seems to me that no one changes because it’s a good idea. We change, if much at all, because someone...
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The Fight
The fight had been ridiculous. Ten minutes after the explosion I couldn’t recall what it had been about and certainly three decades ago I can’t...
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Self-Contempt as Addiction
Last week, Becky Allender reflected on her sometimes messy relationship with her aging body, and about how our culture trains us to view our imperfections...
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The End of the Battle
If you have begun the work of engaging your stories of harm in pursuit of restoration, you likely know well that the presence of shame...
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Looking East: The Wisdom of Foolishness
As we pursue the deep work of engaging the beauty and the harm in our own stories, we learn that, on the outside, courage might...
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It’s a Battle
The work of pursuing healing in our lives and relationships confronts us with the ways in which our understanding of intimacy and desire have been...
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Things Must End
Wading through our stories, in all of their glory and heartache, inevitably confronts us with the reality of endings. “Every ending bears some level of...
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How Great Thou Art
Last week on the Allender Center Podcast, we launched a two-part series in which Dan and Becky Allender are reflecting on the nature of grief...
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