The Marriage Workshop

A workshop based on Dr. Allender’s Intimate Mystery Conference

No dates are currently scheduled for The Marriage Workshop


There are moments in every marriage when you realize there are words you do not speak, emotions you do not acknowledge and stories you do not tell. We have all been there and it does not need to be the end of the story. Let us help you speak the words, feel the emotions and enter back into the heart of your marriage.

This workshop will combine Dr. Dan Allender’s and Dr. Steve Call’s teachings with small group times and individual sessions led by highly skilled facilitators. You will explore God’s design for marriage as well as hold up a mirror to your own marriage. It is designed to be an in-depth, interactive, and intimacy building experience for all ages and lengths of marriages. Couples will be invited to explore their marriage in the following ways:

  • Explore how your individual stories and learned patterns of relating impact your marriage
  • Receive direct assistance and feedback in addressing the parts of your marriage that are difficult to navigate on your own
  • Break through long-standing areas of tension or disconnection
  • See how God’s presence is alive and at work within your marriage
  • Increase your desire to know one another more fully
  • Consider both the inherent difficulties and delightful hope that is found within marriage

Please join us as we work to reveal the deeper glory in ourselves, our relationships, and our Creator. Throughout this workshop, Dr. Allender and Dr. Call will speak of God’s design for marriage through the matrix of Genesis 2:24 (weaving, leaving, and cleaving), family systems and their impact, gender, and family of origin issues. Topics covered will include:

  • Communication
  • Dreams and Demands
  • Family Ties
  • Forgiveness
  • Male and Female Uniqueness
  • Sexual Intimacy

Workshop Elements

  • Teaching: Dr. Allender and Dr. Call will teach throughout the weekend on the categories of communication, dreams and demands, family ties, forgiveness, male and female uniqueness, and sexual intimacy through the lens of Leave, Weave, and Cleave.
  • Small Groups: You will meet with a trained facilitator and 2 other couples to engage areas of your marriage and to process together what you are learning in the teaching sessions.
  • Writing: Before arriving at the workshop, you will be asked to write about specific areas within your marriage that you would like to improve or engage more deeply together as a couple. You will receive feedback on this writing and given space to continue this process during the weekend.
  • Couple’s Sessions: There will be a time for you to meet as a couple with your group facilitator to process your thoughts and experiences during the weekend in a private setting.

What people are saying about the workshop:

This was a life changing workshop for my marriage. I consider it a pivotal experience for finding the deep connection I so longed for between my husband and myself. A year later we continue to benefit and grow from what we experienced at the Intimate Mystery Workshop. Not like other seminars that come and go. I highly recommend it for all marriages! tweet

You can not say “I’ve tried everything to salvage my marriage” until you’ve attended this workshop. It truly is a life line that can transform your marriage. tweet

You will never look at your marriage the same way again – and that is a very, very good thing! The workshop was a game-changer for us and a new template for relating, loving, and accepting one another. tweet

[This workshop was] more profound than I can describe to others. I love and understand my spouse (and myself) better than any time in our 42 years together. Thank you, thank you and God Bless you! tweet

This workshop was profound and life changing. The process that occurred throughout the workshop facilitated a deeper understanding of my husband’s and my desire for each other and how we were each sabotaging each other. This process allowed me to be heard and seen and experienced by my husband in a deeper way than anything I can think of in 32 years of marriage…We are continuing to develop what began in the workshop. Our conversations are being heard by each other in a much more honest and open way. tweet

Application Screening and Pre-Work Process

Due to the intensity of the workshop, we ask each couple to go through a brief screening process after they register to ensure the conference is the best fit for their marriage.

After registering online and paying the deposit, each spouse will need to download the Intimate Mystery Application and submit it to, as a part of the screening process. A representative from The Allender Center will then review  your applications and  notify you regarding your eligibility for the Intimate Mystery Workshop.

After acceptance to the workshop, you will then receive a writing assignment via e-mail to complete after reading Intimate Mystery: Creating Strength and Beauty in Your Marriage by Dan Allender and Tremper Longmann III. The writing assignment will ask you to engage specific areas within your marriage that you would like to improve or engage more deeply together as a couple.

Typical Schedule*

*Note: this features a 3-day workshop schedule. A 4-day version is also available, and is the preferred length of programming for maximum impact.


8:30-9:00am Registration
9:00-10:30am Welcome & Teaching
10:30-10:45 Break
10:45am-12:15pm Teaching
12:15-1:30 Lunch Break
1:30-3:00 Small Groups
3:00-3:15 Break
3:15-4:45 Small Groups
4:45-6:00 Dinner Break
6:00-8:30 Individual Couple Appointments / Writing & Reflection Time


8:00-9:30am Teaching
9:30-9:45 Break
9:45-11:15 Small Groups
11:15-12:30 Lunch Break
12:30-2:00 Teaching
2:00-2:15 Break
2:15-3:45 Small Groups
3:45-4:00 Break
4:00-6:30 Individual Appointments / Writing Time
6:30-9:00 Night Out With Spouse


8:00-9:30am Teaching
9:30-9:45 Break
9:45-11:15 Teaching
11:15-1:00pm Lunch Break / Final Writing Time
1:00-3:00 Small Groups
3:00-4:00 Closing

About Dan Allender

Dr. Dan B. Allender has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to therapy over the past 25 years. Read more about Dan Allender.

About Steve Call

Dr. Call is from Kirkland, Washington and has been a faculty member with The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology for ten years. He graduated from the University of Washington, holds a Masters degree in Theology from Fuller Theological Seminary, a Masters degree in Counseling and Family Therapy from Seattle Pacific University and a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Seattle Pacific University. He is a practicum leader, teaches adolescent and child therapy, marriage and family, family systems and directs the clinical internship program for the MACP program. He is a licensed psychologist and has a private practice specializing in adolescents, couples, and families. In addition, he provides consultation to health care and educational professionals and provides clinical supervision to other therapists. Dr. Call is a clinical member of the clinical member of the American Psychological Association. He is an avid outdoorsman and loves to compete in triathlons. He and his wife Lisa have been married 25 years and have three children ages 22, 17 and 7.